John Cooper – Empowering The Knight Within

As men we may not realise we carry the guilt and shame of men long dead or distant, loaded into us by culture and other women and men in our lives. This denies us the claiming, integration and development of our powerful masculine energy in the world. The men in society are quite literally “cuffed”, “collared” and “tied”. 

We all know about the female hormone cycle but did you know there is a male hormone cycle too? That is why you may feel fully charged one day and ‘spent’ the next. Learning how to recognise and use our ‘peak times’ allows us to bring dynamic (or gentle) change to our lives and relationships. Whilst giving ourselves a breather from our own expectations of self at our ‘low times’.

The gender crisis has left us with a super-strong masculine archetype in the women, and a super-strong feminine archetype in the men. This creates the sticking point between men and women connecting in a healthy way (and is one of the causes of the perceived need for ‘Game’ to be able to connect with women). If you ever felt like a boy in your relationship, or you ever felt mothered – this is for you.

You may have seen companies teach; how to be more “alpha”. Tenuously linking it to some evolutionary theory. The perceived alpha male image used in society and the men’s dating community is actually “the petulant boy” who is requiring constant validation from women and his peers. Here we dispel every ‘alpha’ myth, showing it to be a stagnant model of control/dictatorship stemming from the “Boy” archetype that cannot lead to anything lasting.

“Just BE yourself!” This is the best and the worst advice you can get. “Being” is your feminine principle – acceptance, receptivity, softness. And the “Coming” is your masculine – it is that which is to come, your penetration into the world, your change, your aspiration. It’s not fully realised yet, but it’s Coming. Acceptance and Change together is a Be-Coming. 

Attention is really about a-tension. When you’re drawn to porn, chocolate, cigarettes, hot woman, there is a-tension created. Understand and learn to work with this, and you will transform your life and move to mastery of your personal state. Where attention goes energy flows. (what we make important with attention, or not). Moving from fixed goals to intentions, and learning how tension works in social dynamics will also allow you to navigate with emotional intelligence and impact.

the Four Natural Enemies, Cues, Embodiment, Rites of Passage, the Five Agreements